I saw this article come across my facebook wall and it hit me the way I think it will hit every parent that reads it, like a ton of bricks.
The mothers and fathers of terminally ill children are something else entirely. Our goals are simple and terrible: to help our children live with minimal discomfort and maximum dignity...This requires a new ferocity, a new way of thinking, a new animal. We are dragon parents.
I couldn't help but think how and what I might do differently if there were only 1 or 2 years left at most with either of my kids. What do I want them to know and understand more than anything else? What falls away as good but not best? I'm not talking about feeding them cake for every meal, that's bad for them regardless, but what gets me spun up that, in the end, just isn't important? How can I love them fiercely?
Take a few minutes to read the article. Then take much longer to look at your relationships in this light. We need to step back and reflect from time to time.
“Come now, you who say, “Today or tomorrow we will go into such and such a town and spend a year there and trade and make a profit”— yet you do not know what tomorrow will bring. What is your life? For you are a mist that appears for a little time and then vanishes.” (James 4:13–14 ESV)